What Is Biblical Womanhood?

What Is Biblical Womanhood?

What does “Biblical womanhood” look like to you? When you hear those words, what comes to mind?

Do you picture a woman tucking her kids into bed, cleaning her sink? Maybe you see the Proverbs 31 lady rising before dawn.

Maybe Jesus shows you a picture of yourself, right where you are, in the very spot and season that you’re in.

The picture you see might be heavily influenced by the denomination you grew up in or the current culture you find yourself in now.

The image of a devoted, Christian woman is unique and subjective to each person, right?

I am a homemaker. I don’t have a profession outside the home; I raise children and homeschool them and make sure they have happy, full bellies and hearts.

To some, that image may be their view of biblical womanhood. We say prayers at bedtime, I read my children bedtime stories, I teach them about the heart of Jesus etc. I make a safe, cozy home for the next generation.

On the flip side of this coin, I have a friend. She is not in a season of her life where she wants to have kids or be married. She is a “career women” being used in incredible ways in the field God placed her in. She loves the Lord and serves Him at her church and loves her community hard.

Is she a Christian woman in right standing with the Lord?

Who gets to decide that?

I’m seeing a trend in faith-based media that worries me.

I love being a wife, and I love being a mom, so please hear my heart in that. I just don’t believe those are the only callings God has in life for women.

If a woman is led to be a stay at home mom, I absolutely stand behind her. Obviously, that’s my life!

But if God has designed a woman with the aspects needed to be a brain surgeon, who are we to say that’s not what the Lord wants her to do?

Or, is this only a topic for debate if the job isn’t white collar, but is ministry focused instead?

Is it fine for a woman to work outside the home for a noble cause, just not leading a ministry? Is it okay to save a man from cancer but not lead him to Christ?

Just this week I read an article in the New Yorker about evangelical women in their “linen sundresses.” I won’t lie, I do love a good sundress!

What an observation of current Christian social trends right now, they sure do have us pegged haha… Linen and wicker and thrifting, oh my!

Listen, if linen dresses are how you outwardly express your femininity, that’s wonderful and should be enjoyed.

But in no way does that make professional suit pants and a sharp blouse any less feminine. Or the Carhartt another woman wears to care for her livestock.

In light of eternity, none of that matters.

We need to stop anchoring womanhood to an aesthetic, because it goes far deeper than your fashion or home decorating style.

I’m seeing this Instagram glamorized homemaking image that does not serve all women that –hear me out– might lead to even more dissension in the Body of Christ.

Here’s why: You can be a devoted woman of God and work outside the home. You can love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and mind and not be a mother.

Your worth in the Kingdom, your calling to “go forth and make disciples” will not look like everyone else’s. We MUST stop this glorification of personal preference or conviction to be the convictions of ALL women.

All of this *waves broadly at social media* does not define your womanhood.

That page you follow is someone’s life portrayed online, the captions are their opinions and perspective, their lifestyle might be something they enjoy or even something they’ve been called to do…

But if those pretty little squares and practiced-to-perfection reels make you doubt where the Lord has you– that’s a stumbling block, dare I say it.

I am seeing women bicker online about “well women shouldn’t do this, women can’t say that, here’s where God designed you to be” etc and truly, it makes me sick to my stomach.

“Well God may have called Deborah, but you’re not a Deborah.” Who is anyone to speak for the Almighty God and tell a woman her calling isn’t as powerful or huge as Deborah’s? Because it doesn’t look like your domestic view of womanhood, and that makes you uneasy?

Let me be the one to free you right now, someone else having a different calling or a different conviction to how they live does not mean your calling is wrong, and it doesn’t negate your personal convictions.

And if you feel uneasy or threatened that a woman is living differently than you and calling herself a Christian, that doesn’t mean she’s disobeying God; you need to take that to Jesus.

We waste time arguing about Scripture and context and translation and it is the resounding annoying sound of clanging cymbals.

We can nitpick Bible verses till we’re blue in the face, debate whether it was written to all of Christianity or a specific church, but is that going forth and making disciples?

Is that healing the sick and casting out demons?

I don’t recall any of Jesus’ dialogue at the end of Mark and Matthew being gendered. “These signs will accompany those who believe.”

People debate online about a few Bible verses about women, but neglect the many directives and statements made about the body of Christ that don’t differentiate male or female. It’s the Bride as a whole.

Scripture can be twisted and used for any agenda or perspective, but I wanted to throw a few things out there before I share the core of Biblical Womanhood.

Women were in the room during Pentecost.

“All these were continually united in prayer along with the women, including Mary, the mother of Jesus, and His brothers.”  (Acts 1:14) When the day of Pentecost came “they were all together in one place.” The Spirit fell on all in the room.

When Peter stands before the crowd mocking them for speaking in tongues, he quotes Joel-

In the last days, God says,

I will pour out my Spirit on all people.

Your sons and daughters will prophesy,

your young men will see visions,

your old men will dream dreams.

Even on my servants, both men and women,

I will pour out my Spirit in those days,

and they will prophesy.

Still, I see other women downplaying the female prophets and ministers, telling women that they can’t “preach” because people take a few stories “out of context.” Yet they will also take a few verses out of context to make it seem completely unbiblical for women to lead ministries.

I have linked an indepth list of all the female prophets (Old and New Testament) by Marg Mowczko, a theologian with both a theology degree and a Masters specializing in jewish and Christian culture. You can read her full post on the female prophets here.

(When Paul listed ministries and spiritual gifts, he also did not mention gender. In fact, he writes about women prophesying in 1 Corinthians 11, and does not silence them. He is often misunderstood for being against women in ministry, but he knew several. You can read more about Paul’s writings + women here.)

We don’t gloss over the biblical stories of men with little detail and completely write off their worth or existence. So why do we invalidate the stories of church leaders like Phoebe, Lydia, or Junia, simply because their mentions are brief? (Just the beginning of the ladies I’d love to write about in this space.)

Paul often refers to people in his letters as diakonos, which translates to “brothers and sisters” and “servants” but also “ministers.” Paul also uses diakonos to refer to Phoebe in Romans! Same word he uses to refer to Timothy. Brothers and sisters in ministry.

Another female theologian I respect recently shared a post that checked my heart. She essentially said we get so hung up on female heros of the Bible that we aren’t paying enough attention to Jesus.

So while I share the names of female prophets and ministers in the Word, my heart behind it is this:

Women are feeding right into the divisive hands of the enemy by using platforms to argue and debate what a woman can do, rather than just focusing on pointing people to a Savior.

It’s all for naught if we aren’t showing people Jesus.

Ultimately, biblical womanhood is rooted in ministering to others and leading them to Jesus.

We are all in ministry, whether yours is a titled position in a church, raising the next generation, showing up like Jesus at work, or launching a podcast to share the gospel.

But the Great Commission is clear and ungendered. Go and make disciples!

How do you make disciples? Learn together. Teach through life. Talk about theology over dishes with your kids, tell your neighbor how God healed your knee, share with your subordinate the testimony of your salvation.

Dear women, sweet sisters in Christ, can we not get caught up in vocation as the core of our femininity? Our identity cannot be founded in earthly titles that shift in seasons.

I hate to sound cliche, but our identity is above all—redeemed daughter of the King.

Our calling is to point others to Him, and disciple them to grow as they become like Him. Just as we are still growing to look like Him!

Even if this post has not changed your heart on women’s biblical role, we can agree to disagree on theology/doctrine/translation… Can we agree on this?

The never ending debating and division on social media, in church buildings, in family living rooms– none of this points people to Christ.

A house divided can’t stand, so why would someone look in through the murky windows of a divisive faith and want to stay?

Telling women on the internet HOW they should minister in their obedience to God is wasting time that can be used to disciple and glorify God. We can’t hypercontrol what other people hear from God.

Instead of using an internet platform to berate women who might stand on a physical platform, point your following to Jesus.

Let us seek connection and a unified Bride in our pursuit of Jesus and making Heaven crowded!

Motherhood is a beautiful gift unique to women. Likewise, fatherhood a unique gift to men. We can take pride in those roles! Here’s the thing though… Not all people will be parents.

To make blanket statements towards women that motherhood is the greatest vocation you can have is a sharp slap in the face for the woman who can’t conceive. It’s presumptuous towards the woman God has called to celibacy, like Paul.

There seems to be a war in our faith both of identity and value. I have value as a stay at home mom or I have value and I work outside the home. My identity is homemaker or my identity is single.

It’s all a distraction!

Every single one of you is doing Kingdom work!

And your worth, value, and identity is not found in your vocation or marital status.

If you are a homemaker your season is amazing; pouring into your home, using your creativity to foster growth and warmth and giving your all to support your husband and kids is incredible. You get to show them Jesus.

If you are a single woman putting herself through grad school, your season is amazing. The connections you’re making for the future, the people God is giving you community with… You get to show them Jesus.

If you are a divorcee working with your kids in therapy to overcome trauma, I see you. This season might be hard but it sure is holy as you get to lead your kids towards wholeness and healing. You get to show them Jesus.

The list is neverending! Wherever you are in life, your role in womanhood is glorifying your Father.

So here’s my request for you:

Take pride in where God has you, and celebrate your sister who is somewhere else. This is not a competition.

Ask Jesus to highlight a woman to you, who may or may not be in a different season of life or vocation, and pour into her heart this week. Pray for her, lift her up with some encouragement, and ask how her heart is.

Point her to Jesus.

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A Day in the Life of Homeschooling: Tuesday & Wednesday

A Day in the Life of Homeschooling: Tuesday & Wednesday

I’m including two days in this post, simply because our days were easy enough that they didn’t need their own separate posts!

Tuesday

Our Tuesday started off on a great foot! As it was the first day of Fall we made some apple cinnamon oatmeal and pumpkin spice coffee.

Tuesdays are our Tea Time Tuesday, so I set up our tea on the front porch to enjoy the cool morning.

We donned our sweaters and wrapped up the baby in her bouncey and head out for school outside.

B read us a book, I led our devotions, and we did some more lessons while we snacked and sipped and listened to classical music.

We eventually came in and I helped E with her kinder math nursing a baby haha. See? No formal desk, we school where we’re comfortable and can focus.

Tuesday was a really great day this week! Everyone stayed in really good moods, worked well, and had helpful attitudes.

Because we got an earlier start in the day, we got done with all our school work fairly early. Some friends were getting outside to hike and get wiggles out and we joined them!

We went for a decently long walk in the woods, about a mile! I’m surprised the 5 year old made it haha.

We had a nature scavenger hunt, thanks to one of our friends, and stick sword fights, and identified poison ivy!

All in all, a really lovely Fall day. Simple and sweet.

Wednesday

Wednesday is our co-op day! This week was our first official meet, so we mostly let the kids get to know each other and play.

We met at nine am and were home by lunch time. E was super into her lessons so we worked until she was done, and we got ahead of “schedule.”

(Homeschooling can be working at your own pace, but our books do have a general schedule of which lessons per week to work with if you’d like.)

This day was a schoolwork at the dining room table day. When the girls are having a hard time focusing it seems like sitting at the table helps us all hone in a little better.

We did all of our lessons and got done for the day by 3 in the afternoon. A later day, but expected due to our meet in the morning.

Perks of Homeschooling

As you can see so far, our days are not always the same. We have a general-ish schedule, but the flexibility is such a perk.

Each family that chooses to homeschool has their own reasons, but one of mine is the time I get with my family.

Spending 8 hours away, homework, dinner, and bed 5 days a week leaves the short weekend and breaks to fit the rest of your life into.

I’m thankful for the opportunity to homeschool my girls, to pour into them and guide them, and enjoy our days together.

Of course there are hard moments, days even, but it’s so worth it to me. To work at their place, to apologize if I’m harsh, to see them light up with pride when they learn something new…

The joy and the good outweighs the hard. Like anything in life, it’s worth working through the growing pains to reap the benefit!

Stay tuned for the next installment!

A Day in the Life of Homeschooling: Monday

A Day in the Life of Homeschooling: Monday

Homeschooling looks different for every family.

In sharing a “behind the scenes” of our week, my hope is to show that homeschooling can work for a variety of people and lifestyles!

I know people who homeschool while working full-time, people who homeschool 6 kids, and people who homeschool on the road. You make homeschooling work for you. Just like we make it work for us!

Our Homeschool Schedule

A few weeks before we started officially for the year, we got into a routine with the baby. I was so excited to start daily lessons knowing when the baby would need to nap or eat!

Instead, our luck was that the week we started, the baby went through a sleep regression and when she did sleep her loud sisters woke her up.

Because of this, the idea of a schedule went out the window. We have a routine we try to go by, but it slides along whatever time frame we have based on the baby’s sleep the night before.

If she’s been up in the early morning hours, than Mommy will be sleeping later and we aren’t starting school at 8am haha.

Homeschooling is flexible to your family’s needs, and I’m very grateful I don’t have to get little people out the door obscenely early every morning!

Monday – Starting Our Week

Today got started a little later than I would have liked. Nevertheless, after breakfast and cartoons so mom could coffee (yes – it’s a verb), we got started with our school day.

Morning Basket

We went over our characteristic for this week, B drew the patience card! (Something we all need to work on haha).

B (my oldest) did her More Than Words Bible curriculum with me while E played, she wasn’t interested and I wasn’t going to waste the time picking that battle with her attention span.

We don’t do subjects in a particular order.

B picks each subject she wants to start with, and since E has less work as a kindergartner she gets her turn in between Bree’s lessons.

We started off with history/social studies. Part of the lesson was writing a sentence about your favorite landmark in your city or state, so we watched some tourism videos for our incredible city and talked about some of the places that stuck out to us.

B finished up, and we moved on to math (for her), nursing the baby (for me), and Lego building (for E’s busy brain).

One thing I need to share here that I think is super important for kids – we don’t sit down at the table and work for hours. We take “five minute breaks” that can really be anywhere from 2 minutes to 15 minutes in between bookwork.

This helps the kids get their wiggles out, move their body and stretch, and get a change of scenery. Sometimes its a snack break too! I don’t think it’s realistic, or even healthy, to keep kids in a seat all day long.

We also don’t do our schoolwork in the same location every day, or even every subject!

Sometimes we sit down at the dining room table, other times we’re on the couches so I can nurse the baby or hold her for a nap if she’s having a rough day. There are times we go out and enjoy our books on the front porch too! Again – so much flexibility.

By the time we were done with math, because we had a later start to our day, Daddy was taking his lunch break (he’s currently working from home due to Covid) so we paused to take lunch too.

After lunch and some hoverboard action, it was E’s turn! Our little kindergartener was having a tough day so we did bare minimum in her book and just practiced some letter recognition, drawing some shapes to build a house, and practiced writing some letters.

I had grand intentions of taking the girls on a field trip downtown to look at some of the landmarks we had watched on youtube, but unfortunately, that didn’t pan out.

We were done for the day sometime around 3, and I still needed to shower and then start dinner prep. Ordinarily, we are done with all schoolwork much earlier in the day, but this Monday needed the grace of going slow and taking our time.

I just realized I only had one cup of coffee today… maybe that’s why I’m running so slow!

Extra Learning Opportunities

When I first began researching how to homeschool my children (I am a former homeschooled kid from another state with different laws) I came across something that kind of blew my mind.

We are not replicating public/private school at home. We are learning at home. And learning never stops. We can learn math in a textbook, and we can learn it over the stove trying a new recipe with mom too.

We can have discussions after watching a film or reading a story. We can pair education with life skills. We can Google a question and watch a video to learn that frogs can’t throw up, that’s some science at bedtime!

Just tonight my girls came across a video of two men creating houses and swimming pools from just the dirt in the ground, water, grass, and some primitive tools. We had a really good discussion about it! This is learning at home.

The world at large has sort of made parents feel dumb and incapable of teaching their own children. Not knocking teachers at all, they are necessary and incredible. Kids who go to brick and mortar schools deserve amazing teachers! They really are superheros.

But most parents, if they have the availability to and want to, can teach their children. You’ve taught your children to eat, to speak, to walk, you can teach them how to read or how to tie a shoelace too.

I was terrified to teach my oldest to read, but we did it! She is an amazing reader, she even has incredible inflection when she reads aloud.

If there’s something you don’t understand or feel adequate teaching, that’s what textbooks and community support is for! (Or Dad, call in your back up haha.)

This Monday is in the books!

A Day in the Life: Homeschooling Edition

A Day in the Life: Homeschooling Edition

Coming soon, I am launching a series on what our homeschool routines kind of look like!

I use the words “kind of” because the beauty of homeschooling is grace and flexibility. Sometimes our plans change, other times we may have a hard day and need to shift gears, and so on.

But we do have a loose schedule we try to work around, and after some interest in what that looks like for us I thought I could take you along for the ride!

My plan is to document this week day by day and release it over the course of the next week. I mean truthfully, we’ll see haha.

Before I post our day-by-day, here’s a look at our general schedule for the week!

Daily themes.

Now, this is what we aim for. Like I said earlier, we always remain flexible. A few weeks ago our tea time Tuesday was actually tea time Wednesday haha. Tuesday just didn’t work that week.

These are also just a theme for our days, alongside regular subjects.

For my second grader she has math, language arts, and history/social studies daily.

My kindergartner has a K workbook and K math she does daily. For her age though, there is so much grace and wiggle room.

Her curriculum is simple; letter recognition, poems, colors, weather, patterns, shapes and the like. Some days we do more than others.

I keep her at a pace where school is enjoyable and not a chore. Kindergarten should be simple and fun!

We do science together four days a week, and also have a daily “morning basket” we do with both girls in the morning.

This consists of our Bible curriculum, our godly character cards (we focus on one characteristic a week), and another book to read together if time allows.

Realistically, our days don’t always look the same. We have a baby in the house, and her naps pretty much rule the day.

We have awesome days where things go mostly according to plan, and everyone is in good spirits!

We also have plenty of days where the baby might be overtired, there’s a grumpy sibling, or mom is sleep deprived and moving slowly.

This might sound like a lot, but honestly it’s very doable for our family. As we look at each day at a time, you can see how it fits and frees up the rest of our day! (Baby permitting haha.)

Our previous curriculum was more time consuming. Our current curriculum is much more gentle and time friendly for this season!

This allows for the extras I want to include, like personal character and tea time.

I’m excited to share a little glimpse of what homeschooling looks like for our family, especially as an encouragement to postpartum moms.

What ever season you’re in, however, even if it’s just exploring what homeschooling can look like, I hope you come along for the ride!

Realistic Homeschooling

Realistic Homeschooling

When you start homeschooling and follow these fun, amazing accounts on Instagram and mommy blogs, it’s so easy to get swept up into comparison.

I know I did! Big school rooms, gorgeous posters covering the walls, big whiteboards, desks, cubbies upon cubbies for organizing, and every educational toy or manipulative you could think of.

It was overwhelming to me and made me feel so inadequate because I couldn’t give that to my kids in my “small” house.

But here’s the deal. You don’t have to have a designated school room to homeschool your kids. If you do, that’s so awesome! You are blessed by that space you get to utilize! One of the beautiful aspects of homeschooling for me, though, is doing it wherever you feel comfortable.

We mostly do our schoolwork in the dining room. Sometimes we do our reading on the porch, our math on the couch, and on one rainy day we even did school from my cozy king-sized bed with cocoa to sip.

Homeschooling gives you the versatility to make it what it needs to be for your kids.

If you’re concerned about homeschooling taking up space in here to show you it doesn’t have to! Here’s my homeschooling space…

This bookshelf and craft cart hold everything we use for our school! I’ve even reorganized these shelves since starting this post.

I have a shelf for –

  1. My grown-up books about homeschooling and parenting.
  2. A shelf for Bible/devotions and read aloud books.
  3. A shelf for my oldest’s curriculum.
  4. A shelf for my middle’s curriculum.
  5. And a resource book shelf for miscellaneous things like topical books and dictionaries.

That’s it!

If you take a step back you can see that our homeschooling supplies only take up one small corner of our dining room!

I have room on the walls to hang some things and actually started putting up our chore chart from The Peaceful Press on the big mirror we have. Take advantage whatever space you have!

We have magazine holders to separate some binders for art and projects, and I love using baskets and trays to organize. I have one I keep on the top shelf for scissors and glue, and another for smaller items like flash cards, Play-Doh, and the like.

Simple and easy. If you have a smaller home, an apartment, or even just don’t too much space to give up – you can still homeschool.

Now that I’ve created a space for me and my kids that suits us, I can appreciate my favorite Instagram homeschool mamas even more. I might not have the space they do BUT they still offer incredible advice and perspectives. And I even snag some of their ideas too!

If you are new to homeschooling, I know it can be a lot. But you’ve got this! You know your kids better than anyone else in the whole world. Cut down to basics and find a place that will make this the best experience it can be for you and yours. 🧡

And stay tuned, coming soon I have some cool tips and products to share from a momma whose designed some really helpful printables and bundles for distance learning and homeschooling families alike!

To follow along my homeschooling mama journey, let’s connect on Instagram!

New to homeschooling? Check out my free homeschooling starter kit!

Homeschooling Starter Kit

Homeschooling Starter Kit

In this wild time to be alive, many parents are faced with the tough decision of how to proceed with schooling for the fall.

Public/private school with covid requirements? Distance learning? Home education? It can feel overwhelming. As a homeschooling mom I wanted to touch on that specific option for a bit if you’ve considered it. The number one thing to remember about schooling at home is that it is not the same as crisis schooling. If that was a struggle for you so homeschooling feels impossible, its like apples and oranges! Distance learning through your school at home is not homeschooling.

If you choose to educate at home, you have the leisure to choose which ever curriculum works for you and your kids, its on your schedule not a school’s, and you are in charge of guiding – not a teacher managing 30 other students.  You can take your time if you need, there’s no rush at the end of the day to have x, y, & z finished. And school at home doesn’t take 8 hours a day plus homework. 

So, what are the legal requirements? Let’s get started with that. I live in Ohio so I understand our homeschool laws, but whether you’re in OH or not here’s some links to get you started. (.)

  1. If you’re an Ohio parent, I include at the end the link to the form you need to fill out with your Notice of Intent to homeschool.
  2. Full disclosure I wrote most of this with a nursing baby on me, so please forgive any spelling errors!
  3. I am getting zero kickback from any of these links, I’m simply providing them because I wish I had a list like this!
Homeschooling Styles
Homeschooling curriculum

Books and Resources

Instagram pages to follow for helpful advice, inspiration, more resources, and add-on units crafted by other homeschooling moms –

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